Why Be Miserable When You Can Enjoy Being Fat?

When I was obese, the last thing I wanted to do was work out. But after making the decision to lose weight once and for all, exercise was the cornerstone of my transformation. That was over a dozen years ago, and my morning workout is still as important to me as brushing my teeth.

For me, nothing compares to rocking out to upbeat music before starting my day. This morning while I was listening to “All About that Bass” by Meghan Trainor, I thought about the attention the song has received, which runs the gamut. There are folks who celebrate the message that big is beautiful, and others who believe that overweight people are unhealthy and disgusting and the song encourages obesity.

I embrace our creative and powerful minds. I think back to a quote by Anais Nin: “We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are.” So I guess everyone’s opinion is correct. However you see it is how it will manifest in your life. After all, it’s just a song. It is a neutral thing – a song – and it is each of us who assigns meaning to it.

I have long since learned the power of my thoughts and their influence on my life, and have developed the discipline to acknowledge, honor and play with them. Having successfully healed from a lot of what I call non-preferred situations, I make it a habit to seek the gifts in all my experiences and situations.

This only came after decades of trying to run away from my inner doom and gloom; from pretending that everything was okay when all I wanted to do was leave the planet. The end (and the beginning) came when I could no longer run. I had to face myself and tell the truth. I shed light on the darkness that lived within me, and getting comfortable with being uncomfortable literally saved my life.

As my inner healing continued, I still leaned on my best friend in good times and bad: food. It wasn’t until I could look in the mirror (even as I was turning the corner and well on my way to 300 pounds) and genuinely acknowledge my strength and my beauty, that I was able to change my relationship with food for good.

I saw myself as valuable first and was then able to successfully manifest my dream of health and vibrancy, and I did it one day at a time. It was no wonder why I couldn’t sustain weight loss in the past – I was trying to lose weight to feel better about myself, which was bass-akward.

And in the case of this fun song (my opinion, of course), I think it is a step in the right direction. I believe that injecting joy, love and positivity in areas where there isn’t any is the key to transforming any situation. We can’t change what we don’t acknowledge and ultimately, embrace.

It may appear counter-intuitive to encourage a fat girl to eat; however, the paradox lies within the idea that once we know we can have whatever we want and still be okay, we may then choose to make a different decision. But regardless of your decisions and choices, “Every inch of you is perfect from the bottom to the top.” Thanks, Meghan!!!