The Feminine Thread That Connects Us All

In honor of International Women’s Day, I’d like to share the following passage from my book, Your Messy Brilliance: 7 Tools for the Perfectly Imperfect Woman. It was written to celebrate the delicate but unbreakable bonds that connect all women across time and space. May we always remember our own creative genius and innate power, especially when we come face-to-face with another sister and see ourselves mirrored in her.

So, how exactly do we connect with our vast and untapped feminine power? For starters, we can reach out to other women and experience the beauty of sisterhood. As I am sure you know, women are capable of creating emotionally complex, powerfully deep, communicative, and nurturing relationships with each other.

There is so much beauty that is generated when groups of women intentionally come together to support each other. It is time for all of us, as women, to tune into our feminine nature. As if our own gratification were not enough reason to find a way to open up more fully to the world of sensation, there’s also this: We, as a culture and a species, are on the precipice of great change. 

The world is shifting around us, and the structures we’ve built with the masculine mindset are crumbling. Relationship dynamics are changing, and both men and women must change, as well. Our economic models, religions, institutions like marriage and family, and even how we operate in the global community are no longer working. 

We must move toward a more connected, more open-minded, more holistic view of life or we will not survive. In other words, we must shift from a predominantly masculine world- view to one that equally honors both the feminine and masculine.

But let’s begin at the beginning. Every revolution starts with the self. In embracing our entire messiness—whether this takes form in our wild sexual desires, the way we move our curvy bodies, or the mysterious passions and convictions that refuse to be hemmed in by reason and linear thinking—we trust that we are more than enough. 

In fact, we are infinitely powerful, magical beings who are changing the world. Many of us are only now remembering that we are the living embodiment of the powerful feminine principle, which is all about courage, compassion, beauty, connection, sensuality, and above all, truth. 

Indeed, your story, your truth, is forever intertwined in the beautiful, chaotic ball of yarn that is life itself, whether those stories are of struggle or hope, joy or loss, self-discovery or a voyage into the unknown.

What’s more, a single thread, simultaneously delicate and resilient, weaves in and out of that ball of yarn—creating unity and coherence, connection and meaning. I call this the feminine thread. I began to envision this thread whenever I talked to a woman.

In connecting with her one on one, I also connected to a larger vision of sisterhood that encompassed all places and times. In this vision, women from all walks of life held hands—a picture of solidarity and unbreakable love that spanned as far as the eye could see. And every time I saw this, I knew it was so much more than a vision my imagination had concocted. It was more like a cosmic revelation of something that is so very real. We are an integral part of this powerful, everlasting thread that teems with pure life energy, that connects all women through the ages, and that also has the capacity to heal past and future generations. 

It is our moral imperative to fully own our place in the world—as mothers, daughters, sisters, lovers, and weavers of the feminine thread that binds us and everything else together.

Unfortunately, many of us don’t necessarily feel that we are in contact with the feminine thread. Sometimes it is palpable; other times it may seem subtle or even nonexistent. But this light-filled thread vibrates with constant energy and links us to a global sisterhood—of both women we have met, and women we will perhaps never encounter in the flesh.

You are not alone, so take heart and be courageous. The world needs us. It needs you—in all your beauty, your joy, your pain, your passion, your intrinsic wholeness, your messy brilliance. More than anything, it needs you to dive into your brilliance and own every single part of it.

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