Out of Love: Finding Your Way Back to Self-Compassion

With COVID-19 spreading across the globe, we’re experiencing collective trauma. How do we get through it? How do we deal with the anxiety, grief, and uncertainty?

In my book, Out of Love: Finding Your Way Back to Self-Compassion, I share how self-compassion helped me through a difficult time in my life.

It was self-compassion that helped me survive first a breast-cancer diagnosis and double mastectomy in 2016, and then the difficult decision to leave my husband of ten years and his subsequent suicide in 2017. The only way I was able to make sense of all this was by breaking my heart open even more to life and choosing self-compassion.

In short and personal pieces, I hope to inspire you to choose self-compassion—for it is a choice, and we must make it again and again in order to unlearn the pattern of self-criticism. This is a pattern I know well, having learned it from a young age. For me, it manifests as perfectionism, worry, performance anxiety, social anxiety, and addiction. Out of Love: Finding Your Way Back to Self-Compassion is about my journey of unlearning self-critical patterns and returning to my self-compassionate heart, which was never really lost, just buried underneath conditioned thinking.

This book is for anyone who has struggled with self-criticism and shame, and who longs to heal that core wound of unworthiness and live a life full of purpose and meaning. It is also for anyone who has struggled to make sense of tragedies and traumas. Self-compassion is the key to happiness and resilience, the key to living a deeply authentic and courageous life.

Out of Love: Finding Your Way Back to Self-Compassion tells the story of how the practice of self-compassion taught me how to manage anxiety and stress, how to be authentic in relationships, and how to let go of comparison and be truly creative.

Above all, self-compassion has shown me that belonging is something I already have—within myself. Through stories and journaling prompts, I hope to show you the same.

Here’s what people are saying about the book:

“A beautiful, courageous book that charts a path of profound healing through self-compassion.”
—Dr. Kristin Neff, best-selling author of Self-Compassion and The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook

“Marianne Ingheim has written an honest, personal―and very relatable―chronicle of her own struggles with self-criticism. Out of Love is a fantastic addition to my self-help library!”
—Sharon Martin, MSW, LCSW, psychotherapist and author of The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism

“The essential directive Marianne gives to herself and others is the affirming message: ‘Be fiercely you.’ This book will help you get there.”
—Patricia Greer, PhD, Jungian analyst, author of Breast Cancer: A Soul Journey and Soul Play: A Workbook

“Out of Love describes one woman’s journey from self-criticism to self-compassion with poignant honesty and grace. Readers will find aspects of themselves in every chapter, making this book a priceless companion on the path.” —Christopher Germer, PhD, Co-developer of the Mindful Self-Compassion program, author of The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion

“Out of Love is a beautiful testament to what it means to deeply understand ourselves and to find wisdom in even our most painful experiences.”
—Kelly McNelis, Founder of Women For One, author of Your Messy Brilliance: 7 Tools for the Perfectly Imperfect Woman

“Out of Love can light your path with warmth, joy, and love, leading you to the ultimate destination, self-love.”
—Shannon Kaiser, best-selling author of The Self-Love Experiment and Joy Seeker

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